AS, first of all, thanks for returning to this forum. You always provide some great (and positive) responses.
You're welcome! Thank you for the kind words!
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Since you have been here a lot over the years, and seem to read loads of threads, do you think it's unusual for the OM's just to be scammers or do they in general tend to be just that? I mean, they are just in it for the "fun"...
I really do believe that most OMs just like the challenge of picking off someone else's W. It's exciting to them due to the taboo nature of it. Once they have the WAS on the hook and the WAS goes through S or D then the bloom is off the rose and they get bored with them. They quit the pretenses of being Mister Sensitive (fulfilling all those things the WAS was "missing in the marriage" which in my view is just manipulation, a part of their game to draw the WAS in) and then things unravel pretty quickly. Unfortunately it seems the WAS is all too ready to jump right into another R to "cushion the blow" of losing OM, that might be with the LBS or with someone new. But clearly, as you've already found in your sitch, they have not done the work on themselves they need to do and what they really need is a time out from relationships to gather themselves and get some much-needed help.
