And after realizing he had used all that information to more or less become me and give her everything I was giving her before I deployed. She stated she realized way too late what he did.
I'm still not sure she's really owning what she did. I mean it sounds like she's saying that it turns out OM was scamming her, so now it's time to go back to Plan B (you).
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She does however take full responsibility for her actions in her email "so in words" not actions.
Oh OK, so maybe she is owning it. Did it sound sincere? Have you talked to her about this in person or just gotten an email?
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Although I still care about her deeply, I cannot trust in her words, and she has not been out of the other relationship very long for her to prove anything.
Yup, exactly.
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She simply asked me not to close her out of her life all together. She said she does need to just work on her, and she will get right with her family, she just asks that I be available to offer advice or an ear to listen to if she needs it. Because after all the mistakes she has made she now feels completely alone.
Oh wow. Well on the one hand she's lying in a bed that she made herself, but on the other hand you can't help but feel at least a little sorry for her. I've got to ask though, how serious is your R with your GF? Because if it's more than casual (to both of you) then you have to ask how fair it would be to her if you continue supporting your W. I don't envy your position, early on I told my brother that one of my biggest worries was that I would move on and find someone else and THEN W would want to reconcile, in that scenario someone gets hurt no matter what choice we make. But like you said your W has a lot of work to do on herself before any thoughts of recon could happen.
