You need to tell your friends abiut everything going on. Also your friend you is excusing the behavior of your WW. You need to tell her H that she is possibly running around behind his back. Sounds as if your W found a partner in crime. People need to know what's going on. Because she sure won't hesitate to spin a story on you. If your W is being this blantant with the A, then go-ahead and file if you believe it's time to drop the rope.
