Just curious, other than your W's current A.......have either of you had any type of inappropriate connection with someone else in the past?
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W tries to downplay it saying it was just sex and nothing more. Which I know for a fact is a lie.
So how would you have felt if it had been just for the physical sex? It's just that it's somewhat rare to have a H who doesn't place more focus on the physical part, rather than the emotional. Some H's even look at an EA as no big deal, but of course.....it is.
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She never brings up OM. I bring it up when I find out they have communicated.
What are you expecting, when you confront her. Are you wanting a confession, remorse, another R talk, or what?
If there are no consequences for her, then all you accomplish by "confronting' her is to let her know that you are watching. Is there some type of control you feel in watching? I'm just trying to figure out why you continue doing something that doesn't bring better results.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
