Oh yeah, life goes on...

[Sotto]

MLeigh- thank you - that means a lot coming from you! And RD, thanks for your kind comments and for checking in on me - you are a stalwart friend

I was out with a friend last night. She and I have known each other for a couple of years, so we met 9 months or so after BD. Last night she said to me that the way I talk about my 'situation' now is dramatically different to a couple of years ago when we first became friends. She said that then, the devastation was clear and me emotions were very close to the surface when we discussed it. Now, she said it seems very much behind me. I must admit, it was nice to hear.

I do actually think I am reaching the point where I may not think of XH for a whole day - and may not realise I haven't thought of him either. I would never have thought that possible - so any newcomers may want to hear and take heart from that..I really, truly do not think that much about the situation any more.

I guess my marriage was shorter than many and we didn't have kids together either, so maybe that helps the healing. But in honesty I think the biggest things are working through the emotional maelstrom and realising 'I am enough' regardless of how things unfolded in my marriage. Also, realising that his stuff is his and not mine to own. And letting go of OW's part too. If a guy is so inclined, there will always be someone out there 'in such a place emotionally' themselves and willing to get involved.

Also GAL - really truly for you is so central and that is why it is pushed so much on this site. And gratitude, and those things in your life that ARE still there - enjoying and making the most of them. My friend asked me last night if I would OLD - and I said not just now - I don't really feel like doing it. At the moment, friends, dancing, singing, family, work and other social things are enough and I am happy.

We reached a milestone event in the big work project this month, which was great - but at times I have been bone weary with it. There is still much to do but we reached second base yay!! Also on the brink of getting my second place and looking forward to COMFORT when I'm working away - some decorating for me and my chum from last night kindly offered to help, which is kind..

Anyway folks - relax, enjoy the weekend and all that life has to offer. When I first posted, people raved on about how much this site had helped them and how central it was to their recovery.....I have become one of them!!

Xxxx