Yes, I've heard that they can be very secretive. It's very strange really. H told one of his friends at BD that he wanted to build a friendship with me (i snooped at the email when I was looking for something else. It was probably the most un-emotional, matter of fact email I have ever seen considering he was talking about the breakdown of our marriage!) but what friend doesn't tell you they have moved and doesn't give you their new address? Even friends I haven't seen in years still send a new address card! That's why it's such a load of crap when they say they want to be friends!
D definitely feels the rejection so I think keeping our distance is best all round. Still it feels very sad knowing that he really doesn't want anything to do with us anymore....
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
