Leaving it up to God (but still interfering!)

[AndrewP]

Ola Coly! <insert other happy Spanish words here>

Glad to see an update from you and especially one where you are sounding so very strong.

I desperately wanted to ask him what he meant by that as I still don't know what I did to make him leave!

Coly - I don't think that you'll ever know and perhaps it's not something that it is possible to know. I do want to ask you one question on this that is very like a question that I was asked by vets a very very long time ago. Take a good look at yourself in your mirror. Go ahead - I'll wait .......

Now - are you proud of the woman you saw there? One who is a fabulous Mum, one who did and does her VERY ABSOLUTE BEST for her family. I can tell you from the outside that you have an amazing amount to be proud of. You are indeed the woman that anyone would be a fool to leave. Remember - he left - you didn't throw him out. He's a fool. It was his choice and it's on his head just like if I chose to wear sandals with socks to go to the farmer's market today that would be my own choice and just like your H's choices - has NOTHING to do with you.

I have also decided to remove H from D's next of kin details for college.
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So at the moment I'm just getting on with my life without H. I've at last taken on board all the advice which is to just leave him alone. I still miss him very much but he is not my H at the moment. I also bagged up the remainder of his clothes that had left in the wardrobe and put them in the garage. I'm slowly reclaiming my house....

For this I'd like to give you the opposite of a 2X4 (a popsicle?) This is a very strong and incredibly difficult choice that you have made here. I know going through these steps were very difficult and despite being a strong manly man sort (you know the truth) I had to sit down and have a bit of a cry more than once when doing it.

Glad you are back - thrilled that you are becoming more "you".