W family is really close and they totally support her in this even though they wish it were different. They just want my W (and D of course) to be happy. But they still keep in contact with me since I am family, sort of anyway. Said things like "things will never be the same again but we can keep contact in the future, maybe play some golf together with D", "we still love you as much as before" and so on. Different comments from various family members.
They tried to talk me into speeding up the divorce early on with comments such as "this is really sad but it is better to work through this quickly and finish the D", "there is no chance for the two of you", "this will in the end be the best for all three of you" (how I hate that comment, ppl trying to tell me how to feel and think).
On the other hand, I notice that my W does not want me to be in contact with her family. She's not telling me this, but she is noticable uncomfortable with me talking to her family. So I try to stay away and stopped contacting them unless it is something like a birthday or doctor's appointment (serious illness). They have not contacted me for about a month as well.
How should I manage my relationships with her family members? Simply keep my distance and be neutral and show the very best me when possible?
It is hard since they feel more like my family than my own does.
H-30s W-30s M-5 T-10 D4 ILYBNILWY/BD-May/17 W moves out-May/17 D filed-May/17 House sold, move to apartment-Aug/17 D going through-Jan/18?
