Just a little update and it's just really to vent.
Today my kids are having dinner with my ex to be introduced to his new girlfriend! Now the funny part is that he asked them not to tell me. I found out because my eldest confided in to my best friend. I'm wondering why ex ask my kids not to tell me. What it tells me on the other hand is that ex can't be honest with anyone and i hope the girls will realise how dishonest he is. I haven't lie to them on anything and I believe in honesty.
I won't lie to you it did hurt a bit as I felt it was too soon as the last time they saw OW was a month ago. Also it made me realised that as a mother I wouldn't introduce them to someone I only met a month ago! Also this new woman leaves an hour and a half away from my ex so I don't think that for the last month he drove back and forth between his house and new woman house as his father had a massive stroke 2 weeks ago. So he has been with new woman for a while now. I also don't see it last unless she moves in with him and her two kids. Apparently my kids are going to meet her two kids soon.
I can see a pattern clearly appearing here: I met SD a month after I moved in with ex, my kids met OW a month after e moved into his own house! As Job said old habits die hard, and now I can see that I had a lucky escape from ex. I don't really think his sisters will approve (my SD certainly doesn't), but as this new woman didn't break my mariage she will be welcome. I can see ex doing to new woman what he did to me and OW so at the moment it's honeymoon period. I have nothing against that woman. I just hope that she treats my kids well and I wish her good luck as ex has clearly not learnt from the failure of our relationship nor his with OW. I'm also sure that he hasn't told new woman about OW (not a good start for a relationship as it's based on lie and cheating from ex). For my kids it will be based on truth as ex told them that he was never longer with OW when he got with new woman (my kind are too young to understand the time frame).
On a very positive note I'm grateful that my marriage broke up in its eighth years as I can say I had a lucky escape! As I can now see that no matter what ex would have cheated on me and I would have had a miserable life.
