One thing I'm struggling with is striking a balance between spending time with my son and GALing. There are somethings associated with GAL that I prefer my son not be a part of, i.e. going to some events where I want to meet new people.
Also, I wonder how different my situation would be if my W wasn't involved in an EA. I really think she would be more amiable to working things out, but of course I'm mind reading now.
Hello Teppo,
You mentioned in an earlier post that time with your son was fleeting. Doodler also painted a powerful picture regarding how quickly our kids grow up and become independent. Believe it!
Focus your time, effort and energy into being the best Teppo and Dad that only a fool would leave. Be the rock of consistency with your son that he will need for support.
I would hold off on telling your son that this is what you and your wife want at this point. However there are things that could work and make a difference. I suggest you speak to a DB coach, as they are experts in looking at what has happened to bring you to this point in your relationship and what is the best way to interact with her, so that you are most likely to bring her closer and not push her any further away. Your coach's expertise will help you come up with a very specific plan (that may be counter intuitive to what you feel like saying and doing) on how to best turn things around. I wish you all the best and would be happy to discuss the coaching with you.
Cristy
Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
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