First of all, thank you so much for coming back and updating us! Often people just drop off the radar and we never know what happened with them.
Originally Posted By: RysinMn
I feel would do after years of back and forth,lies and finger pointing. I accepted that this was the end and moved on with my life, it took me a little while to come to terms with it but I have found peace and happiness again.
And who could blame you? It was the right course of action.
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and she now realized how wrong she was about OM. She also stated she is still completely in love with me and I was the greatest joy and now the biggest regret of her life.
But you've heard this before and she still went back to OM. Is there anything this time that makes you think it might be different (I'm asking genuinely, I really would like to know)?
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Now whether right or wrong I stayed single and worked on me for more than two years, after the previous attempt at reconciliation I met someone around 8 months ago and we have been dating. She knows all about my sitch.
It sounds to me like you have done everything right. You gave yourself plenty of time and worked on yourself, you waited until you were in a good place before starting to date again. You found someone awesome.
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She is sweet, caring, supportive, and most everything I would like in a partner.
Meanwhile, your WW is a lying cheater who suddenly wants you back because what, OM dumped her sorry butt? Your WW has done NONE of the hard work that you have. She is nowhere near ready to skate back into your life. My suggestion to you would be to tell her that. Tell her that you spent the last two years in hard reflection and self-improvement while she was off having her fling with OM, you have grown as a person and she has not. Tell her you suggest she get in IC because she needs it for herself, and to maybe check back with you in 6 months to a year if she wants to talk about the R.
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These new emails have stirred an emotional side of me I had been able to come to terms with the past year. So now I'm kinda at a loss how to interpret my feelings. I want to be a good man, I care for the woman I'm dating, but I still have feelings for a WW that refuses to sign divorce paperwork.
Do you trust your WW? Could she maybe be doing this to keep you on as Plan B? She wants to wreck your new relationship only to go rushing back to OM once she knows she's got you back on the hook?
