Why are you bothering to snoop? IT DOESN"T MATTER. He's not treating you with respect and the silent treatment is mind games. Why do you want in on a guy who can behave like that to anybody? If he were a stranger you wouldn't even want to be friends with him, right? So why worry about what he's doing?
Here's another 2x4: He may never regret leaving you.
Because he's that shallow.
Karma may never come for him. He may never know what he's missed out on because he doesn't know to value it. It doesn't matter to what you need to do to take care of yourself and your boys.
In my business we talk about the Three Boxes. There's Your Box, The Other Person's Box, and God's Box. Whenever you start spinning, stop and ask yourself: whose box am I in? If you're snooping, you're in his box. You can't do anything about his box. The only box you can impact is your own. If it's not his box and you can't impact it, then it's God's Box (or the Higher Power's box, or the Universe's box, whatever). Spend your emotions on your box -- you'll sleep better and recover quicker.
Your Snowflake has his own agenda, same as he had last time. You can't know it because he doesn't want you to know it. That's his box. Let him have his box. As far as I can tell it's a smelly one he's used to dock under a bridge somewhere. Also it's tiny.
Congratulations on having a job offer! Congratulations on ROCKING IT like Wonder Woman and giving your boys all these great memories! You do an awesome job with your box.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
