I guess it's the uncharacteristic coldness and anger and the search for negative things about me that I feel is so out of character. A discussion could have me say "I agree with you" and her responding "WHAT, do you not agree with me!".... But I understand that it's not unusual.
Right, it's all WAS script. That's why we say give them time and distance, because anything you say will be used against you. Have you read the thread on validation? Validating is about the only thing you can do with a WAS that almost never results in a confrontation. Validating is not agreeing or disagreeing, it is simply acknowledging her feelings.
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I have not been pushing for the D (at least intentionally), but I think W planned this for a long time and knew exactly what to do when the bomb dropped, like she had an action list to finish as quickly as possible.
Yes, that is pretty typical as well. They usually have a plan in place long before BD. Take the pressure off of her and she might not feel the need to rush those plans though.
Originally Posted By: SwHubby
I have felt lonely of course on occasion, but not all the time. Thought about NC this week and wait to contact D until Sunday when she will be with me.
You can't really go NC when a kid is involved. When it comes to your D, do what you need to do to get as much exposure to her as you can.
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However, my wife broke that today to ask about a major accident in my hometown hoping that I did not know anyone injured. I thanked her for caring and telling her i did not know anyone considering what I knew at that moment. Think I had a more caring tone than hers that were more business-like. Was this wrong of me or am I just over-analyzing?
Well, giving her time and space really just means you should not contact your W. If she contacts you it's OK to respond.You didn't do anything wrong, but yeah you don't want to over-analyze these simple exchanges because they really don't mean anything in the grand scheme of things.
