Finding my way in the dark - Part 2

[Holding]

So I decided I wasn't going to torture myself with these secrets about OM any more. I knew I would eventually confront with this info, and it felt like the time to do it.

So I walk over and ask "Who is (OM's name)?" She said he's an old friend. I asked when she met him and she said when she was 15. (OM lives in our hometown, where W and I lived until about 11 years ago).

I asked if she ever talked to him, and she said sometimes.

I asked what they talked about, and she said just stuff.

I asked if he was moving to our city (she had emailed him house listings in our school district), and she said no.

I asked if he was going on her Europe trip, and she said no.

Then I told her I had gone onto her work phone and seen stuff. When I asked her why she emailed him her trip details, she said she was excited and wanted to send it to him. I asked why she hadn't sent it to me and she replied that I wasn't talking to her. She reiterated that he's just a friend. I said I didn't believe her.

I told her I'd seen that she sent him house listings in our area, houses with 3 and 4 bedrooms that would be too big for just her and the 2 kids. I asked what was up with that. She said she wasn't going to buy a house and didn't have any plans. I told her I didn't believe her.

I told her I knew she was face-timing with him. I said I knew she had done it on the night that she "couldn't sleep" and went into the guest bedroom, with the TV on, for 2 hours. I said I don't deserve that kind of disrespect from someone who's pretending to be my wife. She said she was sorry.

She asked if we could meet with her friend, a L, to work things out amicably. I asked if she was suggesting we share a L, and she said yes. I said I didn't trust the L, since she's a friend of the W. W said her friend would be fair. To be clear, I do not trust her L friend, but it would be a very cheap divorce if we go that route.

She reiterated that he was just a friend. I walked out. On the way to work, I took off my ring. I put it on my keychain - which is my "ring of fire" - I've got other reminders and tokens on there that I will survive the hard times.