If W was a man, she would have been punched in the mouth if my words had no effect. Or at least shown to the door. But since she is a woman and married to me. She has every right legally to stay on the property and violence is definitely not an option.
You gave the exact answer I was expecting. So, how do you deal with a female that would get a punch in the mouth if she was a man? Do you think she knows you would treat her a lot differently is she wasn't a woman?
I never suggest violence. I believe it can be handled without physical violence. I don't know all the ways, and thank God, I have not lived it. I have observed IRL waywards who were so bad, their nice-guy H could do nothing with her........and he either lost his dignity and lived as a submissive, or he left her.
I believe men don't give themselves enough credit. Their statue and bodily presence can be presented in a way that it almost towers over the female. Not all, but most men are a bit taller and overall bigger than his W. When he presence himself in a confident way, it can be quite powerful to a woman. Standing tall, back straight, shoulders back, with legs slightly spread, and hands on his hips.......that gives a message. His voice is lower than the female, and when he raises his voice..........it has an affect on females that she can't possible compete. That's one of the quirks God gave man as the leader. He is harder, tougher, bigger, and has a voice more powerful than the female. If he knows how to sound authoritive, it can serve him well. It how you present yourself with confidence and show a face that says you are putting up with no more crap.
My dad was a WWII vet. He held his body the way I told you, and he had that voice with authority, and people immediately noticed. Strangely enough, I don't recall him raising his voice like shouting, b/c he didn't have to. People heard the authority, and that was enough. Let me tell you, he was a great man, and never laid a hand on anyone, as far as I know..........but people didn't give him a hard time........and they respected him.
As I previously stated, I think you need to have an idea what to do if she does not stop her bullying. If you tell her you won't put up with her cr@p anymore. What will you do when it continues?
Some guys have practiced in front of a mirror what and how to say something to the W when she disrespects him. I see nothing wrong with it. What ever helps your confidence.
I'm sure you could look on the Internet and get some free information about how to deal with a bully wife. You could google what to do when she won't end an affair. Of course you may get bubble gum advice, but it doesn't hurt to check.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
