There was a measurable level of respect. But now looking back on it, I can how that respect was probably declining over time. A 180 for me would be to be more calm and happy. Instead of checking what I believe yo be seriously disrespectful. I chose to let things slide. Especially after reading the DR book about waiting out spouses who had OM/OW.
Also my W wanted to be more responsible for certain things in the household in regards to finances. And thought me looking over her shoulder wasn't trusting her to make decisions, so I stood back. Looking back on it, I should have stayed more involved. But she said she could handle things. Now I am finding out that she really couldn't. So now I have been stepping back in and she hates it. But I don't care.
