Thanks for the explaination. My W has always been controlling, so I have stepped to the side and allowed her to control certain aspects of the MR. Has a lot to do with her upbringing. Her mother was abusive and wasn't a very good example. So my W pretty much was a mother figure to her two younger siblings. Who to this very day still treat her like a mother figure.
Clearly the respect my W had for me is gone. My W still chooses to be friends with OM against my wishes. She could careless how this makes me feel, which prior to the A she wouldn't have done. Still feel that there is an EA still happening at least. I just know that unless I can get back that respect, then I don't have a chnace of getting W back.
Also I just need to get back the respect for myself first and foremost. Somewhere down the line I became passive to my W, which is odd. Because in all other aspects in my life, I am far from passive. And DB'ing probably made me even more passive. I'm doing great with the 180's and GAL, but how do I deal with her disrespect without arguing? Unless arguments when dealing with a WW is inevitable when demanding respect.
