Limerence and My Situation 2

[Parkema]

Hi Btrow,

Thanks for your input.

I have ideas where I fell down and have been told by my WW a few things BUT these things are to say the least ridiculous! "You never changed your clothes often enough" WTF, we had an issue with our youngest son and him being insecure he would basically not sleep in his own bed so to get some peace WW would let him sleep in ours. Obviously intimacy took a downward slide BUT I was to blame...

I feel the biggest issue for me was I am the typical "Mr Nice Guy" and Sandi has me down to a tee. It's funny as I manage a large pool of men and being ex-military I can be and have to be very dominant to get anything done! Being separated is making it harder for me to improve on these things BUT having to manage the kids 50% of the time and disciplining them is a change for me as I would have allowed the WW to do this (she is so good at it).

I feel of course that she is also partly to blame; I would do something that irritated her and she would tell me so, I would as most men do blank it out or apologise then retreat to my "man cave" and allow her to calm down. Communication between us was a problem and me doing mostly everything else PLUS a full time job didn't help either.
Luckily most of these things are being worked on by me having to manage on my own without her and I feel NOT being home is taking it's toll on her too as she no longer has that support behind her. It's amazing how she saw all the bad things I did but not all of the good, I feel she is now to a degree...

Regarding the R and the situation you're In I feel this AP/LO is having the time of his life! Again we have some similarity here! There is some interaction between my boys and the AP/LO but he hasn't moved in to the FH why..?
As long has you're detaching and in no contact with her, looking after yourself and the kids that's all you can do! I am slowly learning my lessons here on the boards from those who have lived through it BUT do know the limerence will end but you might be in a more positive place when your WS comes to her senses...

Thanks again, take care.

Mark.