Yes she is American. She has a fear of driving. When she was younger she got behind the wheel and there was an accident. One of the challenges has been that when she has been asking whether or not she should drive I focused on her anxiety and told her I could do it.
== So something else that I keep running into. So she mentions how talking to OM is a source of relief and comfort but I am not entirely sure how truthful she is. Last night she seemed to suggest there was an attraction there and even said "why cannot I like both of you for different reasons" and this morning she said it was as a friend.
I don't want to validate her hanging out with OM but I also don't want to force an ultimatum because clearly she feels more trapped.
It doesn't help that today is our session and she is always extra anxious before a session and on Fridays. Because she acts anxious I probably respond in similar fashion because she is looking for flaws in my armor and nice guy behavior.
But she cannot figure out how she really feels about me if she is stressed and anxious. Last night I said something how I think she is a wonderful person and she said "No I am not, because I insert censored word another guy and despite you asking me to stop talking to him I cannot do that and you think he is a bad guy and that makes me a bad person because only a bad person would be with a bad guy."
I want to tell her well if you essentially make a choice between us it will probably reduce your anxiety. But I kept my mouth shut.
Let's hope the MC can get us another step forward.
