Limerence and My Situation 2

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I'd like to ask for input from other's that have looked at themselves to see what made the M turn bad and what they did to improve it/them. I feel now that I have all this free time I should be looking at the core problem with me and my R with the WW and continue to improve me for my next chapter whether with my W or someone else.

Hi Mark

I am actually not quite sure what went wrong in my marriage. Life I guess… I’m assuming it was some sort of EA that spun out of control (darn workplaces).

During our summer holiday 2016, 3 months prior to BD, me and XW were walking hand in hand at a camp site in southern Europe and she told me it was a lovely place that we should consider going back to next year. 1 month prior to BD she wanted to spend the rest of her gift money from her 40’th birthday with me (some 7-900 dollars) and around the same time she invited my brother and his family over for new year’s eve (BD was in the middle of November…). The two main problems were probably communication and/regarding household chores, and I don’t think she felt as if I did enough. Problem is, I did enough. She worked evenings 2-3 times per week and left me to take care of the kids (lots of work with 3 kids, aged 3, 8, 9), and off course, I also put in a shift the other days. And it’s not like she put in a ton of work when she had the mornings off to herself.. Actually we hired someone to come clean the house a couple of hours every fortnight.

So the two main problems (which to me they seems fixable) were communication and chores. And those are impossible to work on when she’s not here.

So just like you, I’m more or less just playing the waiting game for limerence to fade. Main problem here, is that OM doesn’t stay at her house when the kids are there. Only visits. So they only play house when she is kiddy free. Which probably makes the expected time span longer than if they were living together.

If it ever ends…. Or I move on (not forward), I’ll update my own thread.