So sorry to hear of the recent developments but I believe it helps to maybe not find out about the A in the beginning as we are dealing with so many emotions as it is... you are in a better place although it doesn't seem like it now.
Thank you for referring me to the NC list - I will probably need to refer to it often. It is so eye opening and true.
Your H affair will fizzle out. I actually think its better when they stop being hidden. It allows it to be tested and it's moved from fantasy to have the pressures of the real world coupled with the judgments from those who know how and when this started. They can say all they want that it didn't happen until after but the only people that believe that are the people you don't care about the begin with.
Sorry to go off on a tangent, I remember being where you were last BD finding out. Trust me, it will get better. My dad tells me all the time - he who laughs last laughs the longest, just remember that.
