NYGal, I hope you will start thinking seriously about your own future and the possibility of living on your own. You can pursue two paths at one time. This is the time to get yourself a condo and rent it out while you're still living with your partner - it will pay for itself. I would get a 2BR/2BA so you can have a roommate and still get income if you end up moving in there.

Dependence can cause lack of respect from a partner. The financially stronger partner - regardless of what the agreement is - can start feeling superior and slightly contemptuous. Maybe it's because lack of self-respect breeds lack of respect from others? Which could explain why the GAL work we do can sometimes make a fleeing partner turn around and come back.

Are you filling your life with independent activities?

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17