Here again part 10

[25yearsmlc]

T0

when you criticized yourself, I thought you were leading up to the realization that this is Not about you.

But you're not there yet. If I could change something, it would be the misguided but sincere belief that you drove him to this. I know you have trouble with detachment.

But I also now believe that your "itchy sweater" sensations about OW and your h's disconnect from you, was based on your sensing the shift in him. You did not cause the shift.



You are not responsible for your h steering the marriage into an iceberg. No amount of cajoling or "truly" loving him is going to right his ship.

He's his own captain. And not to make too much use of the metaphor, your job is to jump off the sinking ship with your boys and get the he11 to shore.

A guy who does this twice, and after buying a house and having another child

is someone who did not learn the lesson the first time.

If you read the ...site, or her book, you will see more clearly why & how you are buying into his narrative, which is simply BS.

We are all flawed. But men with lasting character don't leave women, twice, with newborns, b/c the woman is insufferably terrible.

I know You are hoping he has an internal earthquake & character transplant, and maybe he will, but

You are not the villain and he is not the hero.

((( )))