First time here, part 3

[leahsue]

Thanks for that Cadence! (((((your little dog))))))

Here are some thoughts another wise woman penned that may help some of us when tempted to reach for that cell phone and break the NC-

~Give yourself some peace. Any contact with him does not create peace or tranquility or better understanding; it only perpetuates distress and confusion. It never solves anything for you.

~You are not the gift that keeps on giving. So Just Stop! You are pouring yourself into a black hole.

~Contacting him will only remind you of how unimportant you are to him. Last thing you need right now is someone showing you how much you don’t matter. Don’t give it the space.

~He does not want what you have offered him. He has turned you down, time and time and time and time again. Why are you still offering him anything at all?

~You cannot change him; you cannot get through to him. The only thing you can change is your own behavior. So change it.

~He is not going to care about you. You need to care about you. Be your own best friend. Do what you know is good FOR YOU.

~Confusion, hurt, dishonesty, and disappointment are not kindly, well-intentioned gentlemen callers. Close the door.

~Give him a new experience of you. Your silence.

~Remember: you are not in the same relationship. He is not in this with you. You are riding solo to Miseryville via Miseryville. Get off the horse.

~He is neither emotionally nor physically available for you. He is somewhere else, on some other planet. So long as you remain emotionally and physically available for him you are burying and abandoning yourself in a loveless tomb – all by yourself. Why would you do that?