Sounds like you've had some helpful responses already Thornton.
Great place to focus? Rebuilding your life without her in it for the time being..
Poor place to focus? Your ex GF and her chit....
That's her stuff not yours...
I posted on my own sitch recently about an article a friend shared with me on happiness. It encouraged focus on three things - self love, good relationships with others (friends, family, colleagues, partner if you have one) and meaningful activities in your life that give purpose...
Not a romantic R in sight - or at least a romantic R is very much optional/icing on the cake...
I think if you focus on these three areas (and very much put your ex GF and her stuff on the back burner) you can't go too far wrong.
However, if she remains centre stage and you put the other stuff on the back burner - I'm concerned for you....
I think you already know what you need to do here, but your own patterns run deep too and it is hard to plot a different course.
I know you can do this my friend - and if in doubt just ask yourself - What would Clint do?
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
