1. As I said if there is any shred I don't want them to know yet. When he was at home he wasn't as stressy as he has been since I kicked him out. I know his focus is on OW but he wants to play happy families and so I can set boundaries with regards to phone time, which is the only real issue when he's here and with me in a different place in terms of not working could be better?
2. I do think him coming home would remove some of the stress, not sure if that's good or bad but for the kids good. I think if he's here I could get closer to my goal and also demonstrate to him easier that I am GAL. I can go to the gym in the evenings when the kids are in bed so not leaving them with him as such and also doing something completely different for me that I want to do. If he's not here I can't as I would have to pay for childcare and I can't afford that financially.
3. I strangely think that with him here it would make it easier for me to GAL and become the person I was before M. getting my motorbike back and going out riding, seeing friends and doing stuff with the kids as if I'm OK with his decision but NEVER talking about OW or a future together.
4. He hasn't got a schedule for seeing the kids after telling them which is the conversation I wanted to have in the car on Thursday. If he goes ahead with telling them, what are his plans what is the schedule because they will need structure and not him being here when it's suits him.
I really don't know and I am not saying this to disagree with you, your points are very valid, I am just trying to think about what's best for them. They didn't ask for this any more than I did and I just want to for the very best I can for them and as a mother protect them from the devastating hurt for as long as I can.
Me 46 H 39 M 11 T 14 S 10 DO 8 ILYBNILWY 11.06.17 Separate rooms 11.06.17 ILW OW A ongoing 12.06.17 Kicked H out 23.6.17 H came home 20.8.17
