ILYBINILWY - OW - what to do next 2

[Coconut]

It's your decision, but I would just like to point out a few things:

1. is it better for kids to know, and know why dad isn't around, or is it better for them not to know and wonder why dad isn't around? (just because he lives there doesn't mean his going to be involved with you and family, his focus is on OW)

2. You said it yourself, he looks aweful, is stressed all the time, and is feeling the consequences of his actions. Do you think that allowing him to go back home and remove some of the stress is going to get you closer to your goal?

3. Do you think you are going to be able to GAL, Detach and become your own person better with him around? If not, then you are setting yourself backwards on this path by asking him to move back.

4. I just think it's an all around better idea for you to tell the kids and keep him away. Like you said, the kids will have time to get used to the idea, they will have time to see that life is still great living with mom, and will be able to adjust to the new "seeing dad" schedule before school starts.