I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S THAT, BUT IT IS DEFINITELY CONTROL. AND WHEN IT COMES UP AND THE ARGUMENT FOLLOWS, SHE LIKES TO PULL OUT THE FACT THAT THE HOUSE IS HERS, NOT MINE, EVEN THOUGH I DO 99% OF ALL HOME MAINTENANCE MYSELF OR ARRANGE TO HAVE IT DONE.
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SHE HAS BEEN GUN SHY ABOUT MARRIAGE FOREVER, AND SO WE HAVE NO LEGAL BOND EVEN AFTER 11 YEARS. SHE SAYS SHE'S COMMITTED BUT THEN SHE REFUSES TO LOOK AT MARRIAGE OR PUTTING MY NAME ON THE HOUSE. SHE ADMITS THAT NOT TELLING ME WHEN SHE COMMUNICATES WITH ow MAKES THINGS WORSE, BUT SHE STILL CHOOSES TO LIE OR KEEP THINGS FROM ME. IT MAKES NO SENSE TO ME. AND IT KEEPS ME AT ARMS LENGTH, EVEN AS SHE SWEARS SHE WANTS TO SPEND HER LIFE WITH ME AND IS FULLY COMMITTED.
This makes me really upset to read. I only recently read through your posting history and I very clearly remember that as part of your reconciliation, she was going to put your name on the house to give you some financial stability. Otherwise you were going to buy a condominium.
Also, I believe there was talk of marriage, and now she's putting the brakes back on there.
While I believe in being reasonable, I'm upset to read that she has no follow through on the things she knew were important to you.
Have you bought a condominium?
I'm concerned that you have put so much money and effort into her home, yet she isn't following through on legally making it your home, as well.
I would go out and buy a condo and not discuss it with her, but maybe I'm just petty.
