I'm now considering letting him come home just until S settles at high school and that way the kids get the summer holidays as a family and I won't be working and he can then see the changes I am making. He's not here every night because of work and weekends he also sometimes works. I know everyone thought kicking him out was the right thing to do but I'm thinking about what's best for the kids as I was before I kicked him out. The mistake I made was allowing him to talk about OW, yes I will know he is still seeing her but I won't allow him to rub my nose in it, the subject will be banned. I know there will never be a good time for the kids but S has this massive change going to high school, he is going to a school where not one of his friends is going and although I know he'll be fine I just don't want him dealing with this at the same time.
On the other hand if he tells them this weekend, he has to deal with the consequences of that and S gets the whole of the summer to get used to it with Mummy at home.
Am I thinking for them or for me? If there is even a shred of turning this around I really don't want them knowing yet. However he is not the man I married he is an alien so answering my own question there almost definitely isn't even a shred of hope.
Me 46 H 39 M 11 T 14 S 10 DO 8 ILYBNILWY 11.06.17 Separate rooms 11.06.17 ILW OW A ongoing 12.06.17 Kicked H out 23.6.17 H came home 20.8.17
