First time here, part 3

[leahsue]

So it's done. I went yesterday and met with attorney. We hammered out my proposal of a settlement agreement, which he is preparing now and will have ready for me to look over again, then it will be delivered for H's signature or counter.

H is aware that I have taken this step, and so far has not responded, which is not unusual. My hope and prayer is that he just wants this to go away quietly, and that we don't end up in court.

I've shared with my close people the way I presented to him what I had done. I have gotten some criticism (although given very kindly) that I probably was far too nice in my delivery. My response was, and still is, this may very well be the last communication H hears from me, and how do I want to be remembered? In a kind, dignified, graceful way. I'm the one who has to live with my own behavior and actions, so I choose to do it in a way I can live with and feel proud of.

No regrets. Are there things I could have done differently? Absolutely.

Did I give this marriage every chance in my power to survive?
Absolutely.

And at the end of the day, that's all any of us can do. What we believe is our very best effort. The rest is out of our control.