Thanks Coconut. The problem is that everything for him is about OW so taking the advice I would better not talking to him at all.
Ok, if he won't stop talking about her, why would you want to talk to him anyway?
As for the funeral, why drive with him? He's an adult, he can find his own way there... You don't need to act like a M couple, your not Mrs. WH, your a independent, strong woman, SJW. If you want to sit next to him at sons function for son, then fine, you can step away if needed... But it's a really bad idea to get stuck in a car with him for hours.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized