I hope you all know I'm going to do it. I've been working really hard to do so. I am a work in progress but I am getting better at letting go. ^^this is not for the feint of heart. Is DTR me not giving a F about if I'm nice or not to him? Does DTR mean I'm not worried about being the person only a fool would leave? To ME...it's being civil, pleasant if possible but not with effort - and for sure not giving a f--- about what he's doing or if he is there.
An interesting GAL woman who knows she has value, IS a woman only a fool would leave.
There's a difference between knowing your worth/self respect b/c you know you deserve better,
and making an effort to validate/or speak in his love languages, to reconcile etc.
He still continues to come to the house to stay over. I'm going to go by Sandis advice of just acting as if he's not there. Not that he's a guest or a neighbor. Also on the OW topic. I'm not convinced it's physical. That's my wavering on the boundary. how much difference does this^^ make to you? He said he wants out & he acts like it. They text but haven't text since July 4 until today. He hasn't been talking to her other than that. There may be another OW because I can't see iPhone messages like the other girl at work I was worried about but there are a few phone calls between them recently for short amounts of time. I do believe he is interested in someone else.... I just don't know that it's physical. Yes he was with oW and her mom riding their motorcycles last week. I think he's intrigued by her but I don't know it's physical because he's at my house every night. I could. E very wrong and only time will tell of the truth not that it makes a huge difference now. My dad said there is someone else no doubt in his mind. He said there are chemical changes in the brain (as people have done research on) and that no man leaves his family with a newborn unless he thinks he has a better option.
to me, this ^^^ is going to drive you nuts. $ucks out your energy...not sure it's productive at all.
So Decide how important the details are,
given the givens.
Sorry T3
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
