Also, when you envision your life negatively, seeing only a sea of empty nights & holidays splitting the kids ahead of you, STOP.
That's^^^ not realistic, it's catastrophic thinking and it's paralyzing you.
None of us would suggest DTR or moving forward if we thought you'd be better off staying in this situation.
And none of us said there's no hope for this man.
I obviously don't know the numbers,
but I do believe the chances for you to eventually reconcile are higher by you moving on
(*you can leave the 'door' unlocked but you do need to close it for now).
I believe that without a reconciliation, you'll have moved forward faster and in a financial safer way than if you keep doing the same old.
So either way you need to DTR...and please
please make sure you are protecting yourself & your boys and not being held hostage by financial fears.
We are all rooting for you
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
