Thanks for pointing out some of the flaws in my approach Anotherstander! We did briefly talk about R. Maybe the boundaries was at a bad time but I've been a doormat all this time. Huge doormat. Gigantic doormat. Just trying to show her that I wont be used as a punching bag anymore.
As far as being hyper critical of me, she said she thinks this bc she says we are different people and other pessimistic stuff. She says she thinks she is going to critique my every move going forward. I tried to validate that by saying something simple like this wont be easy for us in the beginning, I understand.
As far as being stuck, I guess the GAL is getting to me. For example, I come home one day after something fun. Then I say to myself, I'm doing so good, this other nonsense is dragging me down. Why do I need it.
Also, no one has really responded to this but Ill say it again. Maybe its tasteless but Ill say it anyway. One year of no sex, attention, and women starting to notice me is getting to me. Its not a huge concern but I cant say it wont be in the future.
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
