But the emotional temper thing is still an issue. You seem to think b/c it's mostly about OM, it's alright. It's not alright to interact the way you two do, with any conflicts and this is a loaded one.
*you were not calm or in control of yourself when there was no OM in the picture, so it's something you have to work on.*
It is not attractive to see a man who cannot remain calm. It says "I cannot control myself" and is often coupled with a man who seeks to control others, ironically. Do not confuse a hot temper with romantic passion.
So I'd want to know what you are specifically doing to address your "heated communication" issues. We can all calmly compromise when a topic is not emotional or terribly important to us. That's the easy stuff we learn in school.
But dealing with a tension filled conflicting desires/emotions and lack of certainty about outcome, is always going to happen in life.
So whatever boundary or line you create, you still need to deal with this^^^ issue.
I know you are in pain. Gosh I don't mean to hammer you about something you already regret. I'm rooting for you.
I just worry it's being sort of tossed aside as not that big a deal. A vague promise to talk to a MC about it...
Throwing/breaking things, pushing her, are significant red flags to me and continue to be.
You can't just say "if she stops seeing OM then I'll be calm" - THEN we will handle things in a way we have not before...
how's that going to happen?
I know she has issues too.
But she's not here working on the m, you are.
Keep at this.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
