I think that is a YMMV but it seems to me that knowing what made the S lose respect is instrumental in fixing that. So if you're indecisive, a doormat, not wanting to ascend in your career, not good with money, not being dominant in bed, not taking care of your body or whatnot.
It does appear to me that addressing those things while GAL might make the WS notice. But it is probably also contingent upon the WS wanting a reconciliation or if the A was an exit affair.
Sandi2 probably can add this as well...but this is essentially my thought process with this.
