If I'm right would you be supporting the A? Helping the OW move out? Obviously I would not advise you do that, they have both got themselves into this thing and left devastation behind them just for you to go and help them live their fantasy!
Validation can be helpful but for me a boundary would be NOT to discuss anything about the A or your M unless reconciliation is on the cards. By all means talk ina way that shows you are invested in him wanting to be part of the kids lives and your life in general but to talk about the AP/LO I feel is a no no. For me in my situation it allows me to show my WW that she is making a mistake by showing her I've moved on and making a new life for myself whilst improving ME.
You have no responsibility to your H any more just concentrate on you and your kids. Look after you financies and don't let him bully you. Your doing well keep it up.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
