Maybe "I was just thinking about you" and "Do you want to talk for a little" were taking things a little too far. It sounds a little like pursuit, which you should probably lay off of for a while.
I suppose it may be, but I am only doing what I think she would like me to do. Saying things like that was a suggestion I have read on similar sites like this one...... HAHA! Can you imagine that.... a man trying to figure out what his wife would want. I know I'm not suppose to try to mind read her, but I'm just doing my best. It's a tiring job and I am losing drive for it. Fighting for someone who wants nothing to do with me and thinks I was such a terrible husband is an odd thing to do you know what I mean. I will tell you that I wasn't the one who initiated the text and I haven't heard a peep out of her today, but that's OK. I liked it better when I was ignoring her all together it was so much easier than trying to figure out how to do the next right thing. When I was ignoring her and she actually wasn't texting me I had nothing to figure out.
I am regretting talking to her now. I'm not really sure what it accomplished. I just gave her the opportunity that she wouldn't give me, which was she got to say things she felt she needed to say. We barely talked about things. I realize it was really late for her and she was falling asleep, but you would think if her intentions were anything different than divorce then she would have tried to follow up the next day with more talk on the subject. I still have divorce papers sitting on my kitchen counter. I intend to have a close look at them when I get home and then I will sign them. This is just drama in my life, which is something that I am not used to having at all and it's a pain in the butt to say the least. I question why am I doing this a lot and my only answer is because I think it is the right thing to do because she was my wife and I took a vows to her and I don't want to be the one who breaks it. I actually haven't been the one to do so and she has already done it, so there is that.
She text me that two stubborn people started a fire....who can put out the blaze. When I think about it. The fire to me is a divorce put into action and I had nothing to do with that. She started the fire and I am not so sure it can be put out...... or that I want it out. I'm not so sure I need someone with so many problems in my life and that there is a better fit for me out there. From my point of view I think the ball is in her court and she is going to have to show me something. She is going to have to give me a reason to continue fighting for this marriage. I'm just thinking rationally about this and it seems I may be getting an opportunity to do better for myself.
