glad you got something out of ... Yes it's similar to what we hear here, except it's a lot of very witty 2 x 4's.
I'm fine with your dad's comments as long as you realize it'll change nothing. Your h has been down this road before. He gambled before, and almost lost the most important things in life, a loyal partner, loving children, a home and future...
and he's throwing it away b/c something INSIDE him which you cannot fix, is still broken.
He wants someone else to fix him, which is ultimately impossible. Since you "failed" - -which annoys him greatly - and which he resents - he needs another person to make him feel good about himself, but will not admit this...
At some point the new R will also end (OR he will stay & be miserable in the new R, just to avoid having to admit blowing up your family for nothing. That's some karma).
Sure, I like to think years from now your h will recall your dad's words. Maybe at divided holiday times or when he's single again or when he sees you with your new man in a r in which you are treated well, without emotionally sucktacular games played,
OR he can pull the MIA 'dad' who misses out on 90% of the efforts of raising kids, but who shows up at public reward times (i.e. public achievements & celebrations) , to play the role of a loving involved "father".
Good news! These ^^ are problems for future T3 to cope with. Not today's T3.
TODAY my question is, what is the purpose or role of said "boundaries"? You have already said he comes and goes as he pleases. You seem to be saying you have no power/options.
What's your L say about your rights and options?
What is your goal?
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