Betrayed Spouse - Round 2

[dale165]

Advise/comments on this update would be greatly appreciated. Feeling lost. Not in a sad way, but just have no idea what to do.

Wife wanted to meet up at parents last night. I was excited and ready to do this because its been awkward with her and I knew something was coming. I get there and make my usual rounds and talk to her family (They all like me a lot). We all then chat together about small talk. W asks me to go outside to talk. We go outside and stare at each other for a second and she says "Dale what do you want to do about us?". I say you already know what I want. This time I take a page from TXs handbook and lay down some boundaries. I realized that my boundaries were implicit before hand. So I explicitly laid them out if we were to make this work:

1) I will not stay married to a woman living with another man.
2) Don't come back if your going to stay wishy washy.
3) I realize this wont be easy for you to dump AP, but unless you end things then don't come back.

She then got mad and said I cant believe we are here. I stayed pretty cool and said I cant control prior history but I will try my damnest for a better future. She then said I can get any woman I want and asked why would I ever take her back because she's a piece of crap. Don't remember my exact reply but I said something to the tune of she's my wife and I love the person she used to be. She then said if we R she is going to be hyper critical of me. I understand that that may be the case in the beginning. She also tried to tell me I ruined her R with her dad because her dad still wont acknowledge her. I just said I told him the truth, nothing more nothing less. We then went back inside as if life is back to normal. I sat in the recliner and she came sit in my lap.

So Im writing this mainly because I'm stuck. I seen her last week and knew she's battling some demons (I had a setback and figured she was pregnant, enough of that haha). Last night she looked like hell ( I did not tell her that), she said she hasn't bathed in 3 days and all she does is sleep. So I don't know if I should feel sorry for her and keep going. Typically, I would be happy and feel like this is a breakthrough but have been burned too many times. I can though see that her fantasy is turning to reality.

I been doing so great with GAL, meeting new people including women, and just extremely proud of myself. Im 30 years old, no kids and starting to wonder if this is even worth it. I been lied to 100s of times, insulted a lot, and just plain crapped on. I can see a turning point is near, good or bad. Needing some inspiration to keep going. Ideally, I want to R with W and continue marriage as Im pro marriage. A year of this is sneaking up and just getting restless.