advice please

[CW2017]

Hi
first of all apologies for any confusion about my screen name. Thought I'd change it from the previous one as I think using all of my initials might not be a good idea (in case someone ever gets wind of this)!

Anyway the reason for the update is that my wife had her first individual MC session this morning (mine having been a couple of weeks back). Although the original plan had been to follow this up with 4 joint sessions, for some reason today's counsellor wants it now to be 2 joint and then revert back to one on ones. Does anyone think there may be a specific reason for this outside of differing techniques maybe being applied by MCs here in the UK (i.e. some factor that I am not aware of which has come out in their conversation, seeing as I stopped monitoring my wife weeks ago for sanity reasons!).

My wife certainly agreed earlier that the OM would definitely be the topic of conversation in the MC sessions (with a bit of her live-in Mom thrown into the mix). She also seemed a bit off in the sense that I said that her continuing in her job is going to be a major issue for me, at least in the medium to long term, although I reiterated that I would never apply any pressure for her to give it up but she knows my feelings now in no uncertain terms (guess only time will tell if this a tactical error; she knows of my boundary of non-sharing but at the same time I do not want to come across as controlling in any way).

I think she was being a bit circumspect because she knows I have trust issues now. I said that forgiveness and trust are two completely separate things and time would be needed for both. She once again said that she never expected this to happen (but of course it has, so now we have "the elephant in the room" for the MC sessions).

So what should be my general tactics for the joint sessions? As has been suggested in other recent threads I should certainly state that her continuing to work with OM is of deep concern and smacks of disrespect. Assuming she is not going to give up the job, hopefully the MC can point out all the issues that will stem from that decision. Are there any other "standard lines" I should throw into the joint sessions as well?

thank you again