Cali, it looks like you're starting to get through to your W, but don't rush back into pursuit mode. Let her do the initiating now. If she wants to make this work, let her show you that. Like you said, the ball's in her court.
No worries here, I'm not in major pursuit made at all. I'm in Hawaii what better place to relax! haha! I didn't text her at all today and low and she texted me instead, so I'm letting her initiate. That being said at this point I think that I probably should show some sort of interest and my own initiation of communication too. I'm not talking about anything crazy, but maybe a good morning would be in order.
About you not sending your letter - I had this elaborate letter/poem/story I'd planned to send my W, and I decided to hold off. Looking back I'm really glad I didn't send it. It was too emotional and there was too much pressure. You might feel different about about not sending your letter after you've had some time to process things.
My letter that I wrote is on here and it's basically written from recommendations from others on here. In other words, if I were to write a letter just on my own without the suggestions from people on here it probably would be different. Not emotional or mushy at all, but pretty straight forward and matter of fact. I wouldn't put it past me to put some things in there that would call her out on her bad behavior too. Anyway no sweat here I don't even care about the letter, although my wife said she wrote me something that started out as a text and then she didn't want to lose it so she typed it out. I haven't seen it yet, but I am curious as to what it says, but not sure I should ask her for it.
Your trip to see your W may not have really made much difference in the end, but I respect that you did what you felt you needed to do. I think we can all agree that she did sit up and notice when she felt like she was really losing you.
I personally think my trip was a good thing and it sparked something, because it showed I cared more than just telling her I cared, which is the exact opposite of what I was doing, but it is only my opinion. If I can think of it and when things, or if things, settled down between us I would love to ask my wife what were the things that mattered to her and made the difference. Then I could share it here. Heck even if things don't workout between us I would still like to know the answers to it. It's a matter of fact that I had been wanting to just talk about things like this with my with for awhile.
