I have no idea what that means or if it means anything at all because it was a relatively short talk about us.
I think I've said this several times already, but I'll say it again- she is scared, confused and doesn't know what to do. She was depressed and miserable in your M (again I'm NOT saying that's all your fault, it was the overall situation), and she doesn't want to go back to that. But I think she still loves you and wants the M, but she's afraid to say that because she doesn't just want to go back to Cali and resume the old M.
So if you're still interested in recon, then just ask her what the perfect M looks like to her. What is it that she wants? Because she's never really verbalized that to you. She knows what she doesn't want, but what does she want?
She has already brought up coming back to Cali all on her own and her one thing she said she was afraid of was that I would give her the silent treatment and not talk to her for a long time.
When I get a chance and we work our way to that point I will ask her about that. What I have gathered from what she has told me and has told others it's not really about being in Cali. Here is what I feel she needs and wants. Make her my number 1 before the gym, friends, work and training. Spend quality time together and have weekly dates nights. Give her words of affirmation. Communicate more with each other and more clearly to come to resolutions. Discuss the our future and set goals. Take the time to visit her family and friends when we can and spend at least 1 major holiday with her family each year. Help her around the house with chores to pick up the slack when I am home.
