Now that you've let that cat out of the bag, my personal opinion is that it changes things. You have to be a lot stronger, a lot firmer and a lot more consistent with boundary setting and enforcement.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014