My husband and I have been living apart for 3 years. It began because he worked 3rd shift and it was difficult to function. We made a studio apt. In a building we own together less than 1/4 mile from our home. This summer we will be married 16 yrs. He has loved his new man cave and all his friends dropping by, burning the burn pile, lots of drinking, etc. The perfect place to ignore family, problems, responsibilities. Things got more and more heated between us and I told him to go find someone else. Well, he took that ball and ran with it. Fast forward, he began an emotional affair with a girl that hangs out at the dive bar he goes to every Friday night. I found her at his apt. 6 months ago, right when the affair turned physical. He of course says he loves her, they have a connection, and although he loves me he's not in love w/me anymore. All classic stuff. We have a good sex life and have continued that once a week throughout all of this. He can't decide between the two of us. I've done a lot of pulling back after I said my piece and am trying to implement DB stuff. I think it helps here and there, but we"re 6 months into this now and I'm getting worn out. He has a new job with a little better schedule. I want to keep my family together, my husband and I love each other, I know it, but this girl and her two young kids are getting a more firm hold all the time. Also, we have a 12 yr old son who found out from a kid at school. We're also smack in the middle of adoption proceedings for our baby daughter who is now 1 1/2. Ugh...
