Two nights ago H was here... long story short he told me he was 'done' that it was over he's moving on with his life. And no I didn't bring up this conversation.
That's how he feels right now. It could change in months, weeks or even 5 minutes.
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I told him it was no longer in my best interest for him to continuing coming here and staying the night. He said we can still do things as a family go to dinner do things wit the kids. I told him no.
GOOD!!!! You put him on notice that you are not going to be a party to his cake-eating. Now stick to those boundaries!
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He said so what's best for the kids is us to do those things and that's how you're going to be.
Right, like this is YOUR fault! The stuff that comes out of their mouths just boggles the mind.
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Plus I swear if I have to hear I'm done or I'm moving on or it's over one more time my head might spin around and explode.
It's a temperature check. He wants you to beg/ plead/ cry. He wants to have control even in separation. If he says it again then just smile and say "I've decided to move on as well." I bet if you do he'll break into full pursuit mode. That doesn't mean he wants you back, but he DOES want you to stay on as Plan B.
