I've probably pushed her so far away that there's no chance of her coming back, I HAVE to get my stupid emotions in check.
Don't beat yourself up, we've all been there and it is tough! For many of us it is the toughest thing we've ever been through. There IS a chance of recon though, so don't give up hope! I really believe in the power of positive thinking, if you convince yourself there's no chance then there isn't, but what if you said "you know what, this WILL turn around and we WILL be happily married again" and you thought that every moment of every day? What if THAT was your attitude, and you went through life happy, knowing that eventually you would have the M you want? There was a woman that did exactly this. Her H was a full blown MLCer and she basically told him "you go do what you need to do, I know you'll come back some day" and every day she worked on living her own life and left him to his crazy disaster of a life he was living. She didn't wait for him, but she KNEW he would come back and they would have a great M again. And years later, they did! It was a great story to read about because she refused from day one to let him bring her down, spoil her attitude or take her on his roller coaster. She was in the M for good, but she wasn't going to play any part in his games.
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It's 7 weeks today that she left so maybe I can correct the shop if I can stick with it
You're fine, still very early in the sitch. Most of us start out as terrible DB'ers. We beg, plead, pursue, do all the wrong things. Don't dwell on what you did wrong, think about what you can do right from now on!
Originally Posted By: Stunned
So just and observation when my W moved her stuff out she took ALL the pics of US even every single M photo. Idk why but that seems odd to me and I could view as a good thing cause she wants to keep them but now sure why?
Like 25 said, don't read anything into it. Who knows. We had a room divider in our house that W put photos in, there were 12 photos of friends and family including a wedding photo of the two of us. After S I asked her if she wanted it and she took it to her house. For over a year when I would drop the kids off or pick them up, there was that divider in the entry and that wedding photo staring at me first thing when I walked through the door. I never read anything into it, but I did wonder why she left it. She even swapped some other photos and left that one. Anyway she did eventually take it out. I have no idea why she kept it that long, maybe just a nostalgia thing.
