In the nicest way possible, there is a very arrogant/defensive tone to pretty much all of your messages.
If all of us trying to help you on here can pick up on it, then I am sure your wife picks up on it also. You even mention your family and other people are advising her to get out.
Even though she is your wife, she owes you nothing, and she wants out for a reason. Because she is unhappy.
If you are so convinced that nothing bothers you and life moves on etc.. then why are you here? Its like your inner self wants help, but the way you defend yourself so strongly suggests you probably need to be a bit more honest with yourself.
It hurts.. we get it, but if you carry on as you are then I highly doubt this is going to end in a favorable situation for you both.
