Hi Thornton, glad to hear you had a good trip and have been out and about on your bike etc. I would love to see you extend a little further into more social GAL - but then I always come back to that one...
Reading Shawn Achor - the Happiness Advantage - our social network, that little group of people who care about us and with whom we share and have companionship, and laugh and cry...matter so much.
Many of us rely on our partner to meet those social needs for us - but really it is something we need to do for ourselves and if at times like these we feel our life without our partner is limited - it's time to build it up again.
I can see it must be difficult receiving messages like that from your exGF. For me, reading it, it sounds a little like an Internet romance - where you don't want to let go of the 'fantasy' of someone - but possibly the reality of being with them and there for them isn't what you want either.
Why would you choose to end your R (breaking up for a 3rd time) move 1000 miles away and then text your partner telling them you miss them etc. What is it you are doing and hoping for? Because you already just made that decision didn't you??
Yes, she may have some regrets and life post move may feel different and harder than anticipated. And I think her messages may be the product of some of that. But has there been growth? Because growth is what is needed to avoid cycling around that same loop again....either yours or hers or both..and I feel it is early days and you are best to minimise any focus on her and focus on you, on building your own life, and taking the advice of your IC and moving forward alone - time will tell how things may unfold...
Good luck with everything :-)
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
