Wife says that she had enough, files for divorce

[SwHubby]

Hi AS,

Thanks!

I can see how the alien comment usually is used for MLC. I agree that I probably have a WAW, feel that the description is spot on in almost everything. I guess it's the uncharacteristic coldness and anger and the search for negative things about me that I feel is so out of character. A discussion could have me say "I agree with you" and her responding "WHAT, do you not agree with me!"....
But I understand that it's not unusual.


But she does't do crazy things that is totally out of character for sure (like MLC-style).


About my health:
Well, my doctor as well as both my therapists are quite amazed about how W can see me as someone totally disabled.
I think that she has an absolute negative view about the illness. Since my wife has taken care of our D more than me and in order to prove that I am capable of taking care of D, I would be totally fine with giving her some time when I would increase visitation gradually until 50%.

I'm having a hard time keeping the meaning of legal words apart (not native English speaking) but in our earlier discussions I managed in the end to get shared custody but with less visitation instead. Think that would be the correct description of the stich.

Yes, I guess that you are correct: my health is the large issue to deal with.
And even if I cannot get 100% healthy, I CAN get better and I CAN FOR SURE change the way i view myself and my illness. Always had high expectations of myself before and were a high-achiever. I think that my sitch made me really depressed for a long time.

I have not been pushing for the D (at least intentionally), but I think W planned this for a long time and knew exactly what to do when the bomb dropped, like she had an action list to finish as quickly as possible.

I agree that I need to make sure that I don't come across as wimpy.

Again, thanks!